I haven't posted in awhile and it's because I honestly don't know what to say.
I'm bitter.
He's been there for 5 days now and so far I have been really frustrated with him and the whole situation. My brothers warned me about this I didn't believe them. They said he would be focused, and not have time or energy to put into us. That I would not be a priority anymore. I told them that wasn't possible for us, that we have an amazing relationship. That he loves me and shows me everyday just how much. That things would change, but not like that.
So far, they were right. He's cold, distant, doesn't have much to say and hasn't really asked about what's going on in my life. I send him emails recapping my day, he doesn't respond to anything, he just emails back what he's been doing, and he's very short about it. He says he really not too busy, just meeting the crew they are replaying and learning their new job, but yet he doesn't really seem to have time for me. I'm hurt. I don't know what to say.
I told him its been difficult not talking to him and he said he was sorry. That he thinks about me all the time and he wishes he had more time to talk to me. My milso gfs say that their spouses didn't act like that. That they weren't distant or cold and talked to them often.
I don't know what to say to him. I don't want to annoy or bother him but I'm bitter. I don't want to demand his attention, because I feel that if he wanted to talk to me he would. I don't know.
It hasn't been a good week.
I know how you feel Victoria. My husband (this was before we were married, so when he was my boyfriend) was gone for months doing specialty training for his job, it wasn't a deployment. But while he was there, his personality was completely different because he was in a strange, unfamiliar, uncomfortable place where he had to focus all his time and energy into his work. I felt AWFUL. He didn't seem to want to talk to me or care about anything pertaining to our relationship. Since your man is deployed, the pressure is probably so high for him. But I know how you feel. Military wives and girlfriends have to be such strong people. I know it's easier said than done, but hang in there and just try to be supportive.
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